There are many reasons to say “I love you” to the special people in our lives: because it’s a new year, because it’s Valentine’s Day, and because it’s just the right thing to do, isn’t it? The question is how to say it.
Not to worry. Here at Inspire Health, we’ve got you covered.
- Time travel. If your schedule permits, why not travel back to the place where you first met, kissed or, if you’re married, got engaged? In every relationship, there are dozens of special “firsts.” The key is finding the one that is the most meaningful for you and reliving it together. Talk about it when you’re there. You’re sure to remind each other of things that were long forgotten. It’s almost impossible not to smile when immersed in the happy memory that first brought you together.
- Unplug. Electronics are everywhere — they’re in our homes, cars, pockets, purses and bare hands almost every minute of the day. They’re also on just about every dining table in the country. Unless you’re on call with the hospital, you can probably afford to have a meal without the interruption of a ringtone. Put it away and pay attention to the person in front of you. They will appreciate it more than you know.
- Change your shoes. Try looking at life from a different perspective. Maybe he’s a big outdoorsman but you’ve never spent a night in a tent. Or she’s a theater lover but you’ve never even seen “Cats”. It’s time to put your interests second. Make a plan to do something from his or her favorite list of pastimes. Worst case scenario? You make them happy, even if you didn’t enjoy the activity. Best case scenario? You now have a new hobby you can enjoy together.
- Agree to disagree. Not every conflict needs a resolution. It takes two people to make a relationship — two different people, with different backgrounds, points of view and opinions. So there will be spats. And arguments. And full-on, knock-down, drag-out fights. It’s important to know the difference. Arguing about toothpaste brands or how much to feed the dog just isn’t worth the trouble. Make the effort to concede here and there as a peace offering.